Kathy

First and foremost, learn to spell; u is spelt you, so on and so forth. I find it hard to believe that you, a woman who is 29-years-old and still living with her parents, are telling me to get a life, in case you hadn't realised I am at college, getting good grades with good attendance, and as of yet, I haven't dropped out, nor do I plan to. Next summer I will also be going to University, I'm not sure if you can remind me who in our family HASN'T done that. Correct me if I'm wrong but I'm pretty sure that you'd come under that category.

As for growing up, I think, instead of explaining the many ways that I am more mature that you are, despite my age, I think I will just revert back to the last paragraph, I'm sure that holds all of the required information.

I think you'll find I am adult enough to talk about how mean and money grabbing anyone can be. A prime example, I do believe, would be you, for if I remember correctly it is you that used to make your own mother cry because of the hurtful, horrible things you had said.

If we are so selfish then why is it that we have Nan so much, why did I used to come over and work for next to nothing, or sometimes nothing at all, why is it that I was the one that worked on hand and foot to make life for your ill mother a little easier, while you only came around when you needed to drop the dog off, or pick the dog up, or if you needed something. Perhaps we don't have Nan here as much as she is over there, but do you want to know why that is? She lives there, you know, how when someone lives somewhere they tend to stay there a while. If you want to talk about how selfish we are then perhaps you should ask one of your other aunties or uncles to care for her, I'm sure they'll accept her with open, warm, loving arms, then again perhaps not.

I mean, hell, if we're so selfish then perhaps we should live up to that accusation and just not have Nan over at all, of course, that’s not what we want, we love her to pieces, but if we are so selfish then we should come first in all cases, including this one.

The dream world is lovely, I'll send you a post card, well when I have the time, and unlike some people I care for and look after my mother, yes that’s right! Auntie Faf and Uncle Derek aren't the only ill ones in the world! It must come as such a shock.

Family is just a word, in fact it is meaningless entirely to me, friendship on the other hand is something I hold close and dear to my heart and something I take good care in not ruining, friendship between me and my mother, me and Auntie Faf and me and Nan are golden to me, in fact they are better, it's like all the sparkling jewels and all the platinum our wonderful world had ever created. Implying that family means something to me implies that you do also, because while you are my family, and we were once close, as of now you are dead to me.

Sincerely, Beth.